“ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.”

-The Fourth of Don Miguel Ruiz’s ‘Four Agreements’

About two years ago I was part of a small group of men sharing personal experiences on the topic of Agreements.  My thoughts were providing me with a mental reel of film streaming experiences of when I was the ‘victim’ (more on this awesome identifier with subsequent Postings) of individuals that broke (or modified without my knowledge) agreements.  How could this tape be so long? Desire for greater awareness prompted me to ask a very important question:

What was my contribution to the breaking or modification of agreements?

When I approach a “self Lessons Learned” process with openness, willingness and honesty, I see that “I am” a very integral component of the lessons; whether these lesson were learned following a particular ‘course’ or not.  I am very relieved to know that shall be provided as many lessons as required to successfully pass the final exam(s); there is an abundance of subsequent classes/lessons that will be made available to me with automatic enrollment into the related course, with tuition and fees paid, until I learn each lesson / pass the course!!! “Thank you very much!”

This leads me to the purpose of this posting, and that purpose is to touch on the agreements I have unconsciously made with God or the Universe, and with myself for that matter, that do not support my Being. The following is a quick, off the cuff list, of the type of agreements I am referring to. I wonder if any of these look and or sound familiar to you.....
  • I am not lovable!
  • I am not strong enough to get through _____!
  • I am not worthy of _____!
  • I do not deserve _____!

My belief, reinforced by my empirical data, which is my experience, suggests that when I state something similar to the above, I am reinforcing this to be true, or calling this to me.  Why would I ever say I am not worthy of ‘anything’?  Well, I know why! …and that is a separate topic. 

What is important today is that I become aware of unconscious, or conscious untrue, agreements that I have made. The intention behind this awareness is to either 1) break this agreement or 2) replace this agreement with an affirmation or denial, or 3) modify this agreement to include language that uplifts and supports my Being. My supported belief is that God/Universe sometimes gives me what I ask for, for many reasons; even when it turns out what I am asking for may not be in my best interest or well being. There is also something to be said about drawing things to me that I put significant energy into. This energy expenditure has often occurred over a period during which I was primarily unconscious; definitely in a relatively unaware state. 

One of my aspirations is to “always do my best”! I believe that I am better equipped ‘to do my best’ when relatively unhealthy agreements, similar to those list above, resulting from (referencing Ruiz’s Agreement above) “self-judgment and self-abuse,” are omitted.

Time to have some fun ‘breaking agreements’!

Resulting from this level awareness will be a Process that I shall share on this site.  My professional skills shall come into play to assist in the generation of a bulleted process with introduction and conclusion, more than likely supported by a ‘Yes/No’ type flow-chart. This part may be fun for me!

Blessings and love!!!

2/20/2013 18:03:48

I think everyone has had agreements with themselves at times which are unhealthy and cause us to bring these things to fruition. When we think we are unlovable, we can't see those that love us or don't accept it to be true. I believe you will have the most success by replacing the bad agreements with positive ones such as, I am loveable. The trick in this is to actually believe the new agreement and not just say it. Good luck in changing your agreements and the world around you as a result!


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